Coming to university brings many changes and with change can come feelings of insecurity, vulnerability and loneliness. You may feel uncertain about what to do or even how to be.
If you’re feeling lonely, you’re not alone. Many students develop feelings of loneliness whilst settling in to university life, but there are things you can do to alleviate these feelings, and there are support services that can help.
Think about what is making you lonely
People feel lonely for many different reasons, the most common is that they don’t see or talk to anyone very often or even though there are plenty of people about they don’t feel involved, understood or cared for. When you understand what might be making you feel lonely, you can be more equipped to take positive steps to feeling better.
Make new connections
Think of something that you are interested in and consider joining a club, society or group; this can be a great way of trying something new and meeting likeminded people. Volunteering allows you to connect to your community and can help counteract the effects of stress and anxiety.
Talk to someone about your feelings
You may have already made some friends at university, but perhaps you still feel as though you are not part of it. If you’re feeling isolated from your peers, talk to a friend or family member, they will be a source of comfort and may be able to give you advice and help you overcome these feelings.
Good friendships take time
For some students, meeting people is easy and comes naturally. For others, it can be terrifying and difficult. You’ve probably heard people say that university friends are friends for life. Whilst this is often the case, it doesn’t mean that these are friends that they made during Freshers’ week.
You have at least three years to make good friends, and remember that making friends is an ongoing process. You don't need to rush into anything, if at first you don't succeed, hang in there and keep trying.
Be careful when comparing yourself to others
When we constantly compare ourselves to others, we waste precious energy focusing on other peoples’ lives rather than our own. It may not feel like it, but hundreds of fellow students are in your position as well - recognise that these thoughts and feelings are common and normal. It is important to remember that for most students, university is hard, especially the first year.
Ask yourself how you’re feeling
Feeling lonely can be stressful and can have a big impact on your general wellbeing, which might make it even harder to make positive steps to feeling better. Sleep deprivation and unhealthy eating can also have a negative impact on our mental wellbeing so it’s important to look after yourself and seek help if this is affecting you.
Ask for help
Loneliness is just like any other emotion – it will come and go, and there are things you can do to manage these feelings. Reach out for help if you need it and if it makes you feel good, be there for someone else in turn once you are feeling more resilient.
University Support Services
Our Support Services are dedicated to making sure that every student gets the support they need.